Six Feet Under and Dead Like Me
HBO's Six Feet Under deals with a family that runs a mortuary. Each week begins with a bizarre death of someone whose body ends up at Fisher & Diaz Mortuary. The dead person's spirit often appears to one of the main characters to shed some light on what's happening. The deaths, however, are not nearly as bizarre as the Fisher family. SFU is currently in its fourth season.
Dead Like Me is about a young woman (George) who has been killed by a toilet seat falling from a disintegrated space station (weird death is a key in DLM as well). Rather than moving on to an afterlife as we usually think of afterlife, George by luck of the draw becomes a Reaper. Reapers are undead people whose job it is to harvest peoples’ souls just before they die. DLM is about to begin its second season.
Both shows, as is so often the case with cable series, are geared to adults. Both (although SFU more than DLM) include strong profanity and adult themes.
As much as death seems central to both of these shows, they are really about life. Both shows, in very different ways, give us the opportunity to examine the meanings of life by putting the life experiences of the characters into perspective.
SFU is very dark and haunting. The characters move from crisis to crisis in their personal lives. None of them has really found a good coping mechanism, and their trials often get out of control. These are people who have seriously messed up their lives -- often with considerable help from others. There is Nate, who returned to help with the family business after his father died. He had a very torrid relationship with Brenda, whose childhood was written about in a popular book. She and her manic-depressive brother have a serious relationship that might be described as emotional incest. In season three, Nate is married to a passive-aggressive hippie who has his child, then disappears; we discover that she is dead at the end of the season.
Nate’s brother David is gay and in an on-again-off-again relationship with Keith, a former police officer, now working as a security guard. They struggle with their relationship. David was "closeted" through most of the first season, and still struggles with being "out."
David and Nate’s sister Claire has now completed high school and is going to art school, seeking to develop her talent. But like her brothers she also has a terrible time trying to find a real relationship with someone. Unsurprisingly, she is also somewhat affected by the constant presence of death in her life. (The family lives in the mortuary).
In the early seasons, their mother Ruth was experiencing a new freedom that came with the death of her husband. Since then, she has been with several men and is now married to a man she knows almost nothing about, except that he’s been married six times.
As mentioned above, the show has a very dark and haunting feel to it. There is always trouble and crisis to be dealt with. But in some ways it is very similar to what we'd expect from the Preacher of Ecclesiastes -- if he were in a bad mood. The Preacher kept looking for what would give life meaning. The characters of SFU are all looking for happiness in many ways -- sex, success, relationship, family, religion; but they always come up short. In Ecclesiastes, the Preacher finally concluded that the meaning of life was that we all die, so we should enjoy the days that we have. But the people in SFU have not learned that lesson yet. They continue to seek ways that they hope will give them happiness while happiness continues to elude them, because they have not made the connection of life and death in their lives -- even though death is such a constant for them.
DLM is also dark, but it is dark comedy. George, the new Reaper, never really learned much about life while she was alive. She is fresh out of high school -- no career, no ambition, no plans -- when the toilet seat does her in.
But as a Reaper, she now has responsibilities. She may be dead, but then again, she's not dead. To start off, she needs to figure out how to do all the things living people need to do, like get an apartment and money for food. She is given her assignment each day by Rube, the leader of her band of Reapers, who has taken her under his wing a bit. It is important that she does this work: the soul trapped in a dead body is a terrible thing. So -- as distasteful as her job is (and this group gets all the weird deaths) -- it's imperative that she follows through.
There are a few other Reapers with whom she interacts and learns (some good things and some things not so good). They are all putting in their time until they've met their quota (whatever that is) and can move on to whatever reward awaits them.
We (and George) also look in from time to time on her family and the struggles they have with their grief at losing her.
George, we observe, is learning much more about life after she has died than she learned while alive. In some ways this is encouraging, seeing her grow out of her slacker persona (although not without struggle). But it is also a bit sad because we know that she could just as easily have experienced this growth and the joy she finds, while still living.
SFU’s dark tragedy and DLM’s dark comedy both remind us, as did the
Preacher, that we need to find the joy in life while we can, because in the end, it is all so brief.
In A Day Without a Mexican, Sergio Arau tries to provide a satirical look at what would happen if suddenly all the Mexicans were gone. (“Mexican� here includes other Latin Americans, because for Anglos, aren't they all Mexicans?) A woman wakes up with her husband and son gone. The TV station's weather man is gone. There are no workers in the fields, the schools are in crisis because twenty percent of K-12 teachers are Latino.

