Lynda Satre’s book Parenting Sensibly: Turning Messes into Successes released in October of 2017. As a mother of 10 children, Lynda’s book is filled with practical advice for parents at any stage of their parenting journey.
“We need to change our way of thinking. Instead of overprotecting our children—we need to look at mistakes and failures as opportunities to learn life’s lessons. Coach your children through their mistakes and challenges by teaching them to learn problem-solving. This will turn messes into successes.” ~Lynda Satre
This interview is a great opportunity to learn a little bit about the author, her motivation for writing this book, and her hopes for the parents who will read it.
Enjoy our exclusive interview with the author, Lynda Satre, Parenting Sensibly.
Tell me a little about yourself.
I grew up in a small town in Wisconsin and have lived in several states during our marriage. We have 10 children including a set of fraternal twins and a set of identical twins, but our story also includes infertility, a vasectomy, and a reversal. My days are filled with homeschooling, getting my girls to swim team practice, and writing this book, which pulls together the key things that have helped me parent sensibly.
When did you first know you had to write this book and what prompted you to do so?
The intimidation of writing a full book was overcome by my need to share this information because of the transformations I saw from people taking my parenting class. When we moved to the Seattle area 16 years ago, I had a strong urge, what felt like an urge from God, to help other parents on their parenting journey. By then I had five young boys and had spent years taking classes, reading books, and seeking mentors. Even though I led a small parenting class once all those years ago, I didn’t do it again until 5 years ago. Life seemed like it was never going to slow down, but I knew I would regret if I died before sharing this knowledge. So, when my youngest was an infant I started putting thoughts down on paper and started teaching my class. Since then, people have regularly asked me for my notes and presentations.
Who do you hope will read it?
Any parent or caregiver who is seeking to improve their relationship with their child and wants to parent more effectively and intentionally.
What do you hope readers will take away from it?
They CAN do it! Relationships can improve, hurdles can be overcome, and these strategies can revolutionize family dynamics.
What is your favorite chapter and why?
Favorite is hard to determine, but the funniest chapter is Chapter 3: Embracing the Uniqueness of Each Child. The story about my son accidentally stabbing himself in his bottom after peeling an orange gets the most laughs!
Were you changed in any way during the writing of your book?
Resiliency. It challenged me to overcome hurdle after hurdle, yet trust God through the process and never lose sight of the goal of helping families.
What challenged you the most during the process?
Self-doubt: Feeling inadequate to write a book was my biggest challenge. I could relate to Moses when God told him to talk to Pharaoh. But just as God was persistent with Moses, He was persistent with me, surrounding me with people who encouraged me to finish this book for them and others.
It was also hard to expose the imperfect parts of my story, from challenges in my childhood to my own parenting shortfalls. Even though the stories were hard to share, my hope is that others can relate, learn, and overcome similar difficulties as well.
What makes this book different from other parenting books?
It covers a broad range of topics: parenting styles, personalities, the difference between punishment and discipline, how to discipline with balance, chores, teaching your kids about money, and so much more. It will give you steps to navigate challenges, but it will also give you a long-term perspective, so your children will become resilient, hard-working, independent adults. It isn’t written in a judgmental or condemning way, but in the tone of a friend coming alongside you.
How can readers connect with you?
My website: www.parentingsensibly.com has many resources, book recommendations, and links to helpful articles, and if you subscribe to my website you will have access to recipes and monthly meal planning documents. Also, join me on Facebook at Parenting Sensibly.